Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Be kind when it’s easy. Be kind when it’s hard.
These rules are simple enough. Just be kind. How hard can it be?
As it turns out, really fucking hard.
There are moments when you want to be mean to yourself. Moments when you just drown in self-hatred, pinching away at every bit of fat, wishing you could think less, feel less, and be less. Ignorance is bliss, right? As Daisy/Zelda put it: I hope she’ll be a fool– that’s the best thing a girl can be in this world, a beautiful little fool. It’s so easy to limit yourself because of your femininity. It’s so easy to be cruel toward yourself and deny your own dreams, ambitions, and success. But that’s when you need to be kind to yourself and not deny yourself. That’s when you need to confront your own demons, and understand your achievements. You’ve come too far to give up now.
There are moments when you want to hate others. Moments when you want to blame others for everything you have or have not experienced. When you want to excuse your actions, and deny any imperfections. But no one is perfect, and no single person can take sole responsibility for all of your issues. Besides, it takes two to tango. At the core of every conflict is two perceptions of one issue. No one can tell right from wrong because a lot of the time, the distinction doesn’t exist. So be kind to others, switch up your perspective. Maybe you’ll be surprised by what you discover.
There are moments when being kind is easy. In those moments, act. Don’t delay your action, don’t excuse yourself from the opportunity to step up. You never know the impact that one small action can have. It’s like what the Doctor said, “In nine hundred years of time and space, I’ve never met anybody who wasn’t important”. You have the power to make impacts beyond your imagination. So be kind when it’s easy, because your actions always carry worth.
Be kind when it’s hard. Because if not now, then when? There’s no better time to challenge yourself and grow.